Filed under: employment search, financial concerns, home life, job, worries | Tags: lay offs, unemployment
Well, our family has become a victim of the economic collapse. My husband has been laid off from his job of 14 years. It’s not immediate. He will be able to continue to work until December 19th and then a 5 month severance package will kick in…full pay and full benefits until May 29th. He also has a significant PTO balance that he’ll have cashed out on the 19th.
Fortunately, the hospital has a permanent position open that I’ll be able to move into. It’s only .6 FTE, but I have another .4 FTE’s from a couple of job shares that I have, so it will work out to full-time. And I’ll be eligible for medical insurance benefits.
We also have our bills in order. We don’t have car payments, our mortgage is manageable and we have a pretty good savings account. So, we’re in a far better position than a lot of people going through this.
Nevertheless, it’s a little unnerving. It feels a bit tenuous to know that one of us won’t have a job in a month and a half or so. Wish us luck.
Filed under: family life, home life, mom | Tags: dolls, gender roles, parental supervision, toys
Well…I would guess most parents don’t intend on having children who will be jerks, but I just wonder how parents can let some behavior go unchallenged. Recently my 3 year old has taken to this little baby doll. He calls it “Baby Ga Ga”. Baby Ga Ga is not a boy OR a girl, apparently. But, Baby Ga Ga goes everywhere with the 3 year old, including bed, the store, the library, to pick his brother up from school, etc. Anyway…the other day we went into a local craft store and Baby Ga Ga was in tow. We were in the children’s craft section and another little boy, who was at least 5 and potentially older (I have a hard time judging the ages of kids between 5 and 10 for some reason), walks up to the 3 year old and says, “Boys aren’t supposed to play with dolls! That’s really dumb that you have a doll.” The poor 3 year old, he just looked up at me for direction and I could see he was considering whether or not to start crying. The other boy’s mother was right there and just looked at me. So, I said, “Well, there is no reason why he can’t play with a doll. I think it’s great that he loves this baby so much.”
The fact that he seemed a bit cowed by the fact that I even responded makes me think that he may have been trying to get SOMEONE to set some limits for his behavior, I don’t know. I was a little irritated that I was the one that had to do it for someone else’s kid. It also made me sad that my little guy had to have the little hit to his self-esteem. Then, as we were leaving the store, my older son (who’s 5) said, “Mommy? Is brother naughty for playing with a doll?” I explained absolutely not, that it was OK for them to play with whatever toy they wanted as long as it was safe and they weren’t hurting anyone else by playing with it. He seemed OK with the answer. It was just disappointing because that was not how I expected a fun trip to get some craft supplies for them to end.