The D’s surgery is scheduled for February 17th. We met with the surgeon yesterday and it went really well. He was so kind to David and answered all of our questions thoroughly. David actually looked at him and showed him his toys, so that says a lot.
So, on the 17th, we’ll have to be at the hospital at 6:00AM for check in and the surgery is scheduled to start at 7:30AM. We’re debating on how much we should tell David about it. We won’t talk to him about it until much closer to time, but we’ll try to prepare him somewhat. Now, I’m just trying not to spend too much time worrying about the anesthesia.
So, with the D’s upcoming surgery, I’m a little bit of a basket case. Of course, I’m obsessing over every detail. I thought I had worked through some of my worries, but not entirely. I haven’t been overly concerned with the surgeon we were referred to. A hernia repair is a pretty simple and straightforward thing. I have been obsessing over the anesthesia, given the D’s history of severe asthma. Part of that obsession has to do with where the particular surgeon would want to perform the surgery. There’s an ambulatory surgery center associated with the clinic connected with this doctor and I’m just not comfortable with the D having his surgery in that environment. If something were to go wrong with his anesthesia (or anything else for that matter) he might as well be across town from the hospital, even though he would only be a block away from the hospital.
So, because that was the main area I was obsessing about, I hadn’t given a whole lot of thought about the surgeon. Our pediatrician recommended him because apparently he does a lot of hernias, both adult and pediatric. The surgeon apparently has good technical skills. Today, however, I decided that I should do a little more investigating around the hospital about this particular surgeon.
I learned that, indeed, he is highly skilled and very competent as a surgeon. But, talking to a few people, it seems that his people skills may be a bit lacking. In fact once nurse went so far as to say, “I can’t imagine that man working with a small child.” Of course, I didn’t learn this information until the end of the day and it sort of sent me into a tail spin.
So, tomorrow, I am going to be calling and requesting a referral be sent to another surgical practice. By using this other practice, I’ll solve a number of problems. My insurance will pay a bit better, even though my insurance is only a secondary for the D at this point. And that’s what I’ll be telling our pediatrician, so I don’t alienate him from his colleague. But, also by using this other surgical practice, I know for a fact that the D will have his surgery in the hospital, with all the associated bells and whistles available to him should something (God forbid) go wrong. I know this because they do not have an ambulatory surgical center at their disposal.
So…wish me luck in making all the necessary appointments!