Amy’s Life in Brief

The D’s Speech
March 23, 2009, 5:06 am
Filed under: family life, job, mom, speech therapy, stuttering, worries | Tags: ,

I’m trying to decide what to do about this.  At this point, I’m going to make an appointment with the pediatrician, I think.  I’ve mentioned this before, but since about June 2008, or so, the D has had some speech issues.  He wasn’t a huge talker, but he had slowly improved from time he was 2 1/2 until June 2008.  Then, he started stuttering.  Since that time, he has gone through periods where his speech is totally fine, to periods of severe stuttering, to periods where it just seems like the word or words are “stuck” in his throat.

Of course, I have some guilt (probably misplaced) because this all basically started when I went back to work.  Of course, as a mother, I directly attributed him having speech problems with me “abandoning” him for the world of paid work.  I don’t know if there is any basis to this, but when I keep going over the child abuse brochure we have in the office, and speech problems are listed as a warning sign, it’s hard not to.  Not that I’m abusing my child, but maybe me going back to work was traumatic for him.

So, here’s my dilemma.  If I set up an appointment to see a speech therapist, and he’s in a period where he’s doing fine…then what?  And what is he’s in a period where he’s having a lot of trouble…is that good or bad?  As a social worker, I am well aware that labels have a tendency to really stick.  As a mother, I want to make sure any problems are addressed so he can have as successful of a life as possible.

So, that settles it!  I’m going to make an appointment with the pediatrician and put off making a decision for a little while longer.


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It sounds like you truly love your child and want the best for him. With that in mind, I’m sure that you and your pediatrician will be able to figure out a workable solution.

Good luck!

Comment by Sexii Bradley

As a person who stutters, I find that emotional support is just as important as therapy for our stuttering (if not more important). To meet other people who stutter who can relate to our lives as people who stutter helps us accept our stuttering more than anything else. I serve on the Board of Directors of The National Stuttering Association (NSA –, which is the largest self-help non-profit organization for people who stutter in the country. The NSA offers several programs which provides the opportunity for people who stutter to meet and interact with other people who stutter at local chapter meetings (kids and adult groups), workshops and annual conferences in which over 600 people who stutter (including kids and teens) attend each year! This year we are celebrating our 33rd Anniversary! Conferences in recent years have included such keynote speakers as Vice President Joe Biden, Arthur Blank (Owner, Atlanta Falcons), Adrian Peterson (Chicago Bears), Annie Glenn, John Melendez and John Stossel. They all shared truly amazing stories.

The NSA offers tons of great pamphlets and brochures, books, DVD’s and even coloring books relating to stuttering. Check out the bookstore when you get a chance!

To learn more, pls contact us at:, or 1-800-937-8888

Comment by Cathy O

The pedi appointment will give you a better idea about things. And if it does turn out that there is a delay, I think that they are more common in younger siblings regardless of a change in circumstance.

I know you all have been thru so much with D’s health, hope this relatively minor situation doesn’t cause you too much stress!

Comment by Kia

I made an appointment with the pediatrician…we’ll go and meet with him on April 2nd and then go from there…I’ll keep you all updated!

Comment by oregonamy1972

I hear you on the labels thing. It is such a delicate balancing act. I think when you’re an educated parent who wants the best for your child, you maybe tend to err on the side of over-careful. But then you’re aware of that, and so you wonder if it might not be better to wait and see, trying not to over-react. Seeking advice is often helpful, and I believe it makes sense to ask an expert.

Wishing you and your boy well!

Comment by Book Chook


I’m a stutterer myself…and I also became a PhD level stuttering researcher and university professor. So take this with a grain of salt…

In general, the MD community doesn’t know all too much about ped. stuttering. Things have gotten better, but many (if not most) still remain clueless.

The awful secret is that many SLPs are equally clueless as well. An MD referral is fine, well and dandy… but the MD will only confirm what you already know. He’ll refer out to an SLP.

So I would do some real research in your area to find an SLP that knows what the heck they’re talking about. Are they board certified fluency specialists? (Although this doesn’t ensure competency.) Do they have any real experience and do they keep up with the latest and best research? These are the questions that I’d ask.

And groups like the NSA can be a real God send for both kids and parents alike, as Cathy O mentions. Although if you’re kid is 2 1/2, probably not quite there yet!

Hope this helps; feel free to contact me on if I can be of any help.

Good luck, and all my best,

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