Amy’s Life in Brief


It’s been a long, long while…

I’m embarrassed to see how long, actually. July was the last time I posted…wow! Lots has happened, so I at least feel somewhat in justified in neglecting my blog for so long.

The Husband and I bought a new house. We are enjoying having more space and our own yard. Now, The Husband and The Father-in-Law are fixing up the old house with the hopes of putting it on the market. We’ll see. Given the housing market in our area, my guess is that we’ll be renting it out to some medical students or residents in June.

The D’s medical problems have been an issue. We went up to the Children’s Hospital in the nearby metro area on the 20th so he could have an endoscopy. We may have a diagnosis for him by Wednesday or so. They think he has eosinophilic esophagitis. I asked multiple times for a referral to a pediatric gastroenterologist and was always treated like I was an overprotective mother. Now, it seems he has been taking a medication (ie Prevacid) for 2 1/2 years that was likely doing little to nothing for his problems. Given his issues with asthma, it doesn’t seem like it should have been a big leap to consider eosinophilic esophagitis.

So, I’m a little angry right now. His esophagus was kind of a mess. There was unexpected bleeding during his procedure due to the fact that his esophagus was so inflamed that just the scope touching it caused it to bleed. It has likely been this way for a long time.

So, we’ll get confirmation of the diagnosis and then go from there.

Work has been fine…I need to post a few good quotes…I’ll end with one that came from me today…

“You can be as mad as you want about there not being any open psych beds anywhere in the state, but you need to stop yelling at me.”





I may have to put my money where my mouth is…

There is a certain group of physicians in my community that do not take Medicaid patients and only take a certain number of Medicare patients. If you don’t have insurance, well, let’s just say you’d better have your credit card and/or check book ready.

My family actually uses this group. It’s a large group with a number of specialities. My family has gotten all over care there. The Husband’s diabetes is well managed there. My two difficult and high-risk pregnancies were managed there. The pediatrician for The G and The D are there. The D’s asthma specialist is there. We have always gotten good care there, but I am thinking we are going to have to switch providers.

The thing is, I think that they are immoral assholes. I know a person who very likely has colon cancer. She has been seeing a GI doctor at this group and had been able to scrape the money together to see him because “he’s the best.” But, here’s the thing. This supposed health care provider won’t do her colonoscopy to give her a definitive diagnosis and determine an appropriate course of treatment until she is able to come up with $2500. I realize he’s probably not made that decision on his own, that this has come from the business office, but to me it might as well be the same thing.

So, she was approved for financial assistance through the organization I work for….after two and a half months. Now he’s going to “help” her by getting in to see one of our GI specialists.

I am disgusted and appalled by this situation. And frankly I’m a little horrified that we have supported this group financially over so many years. So, I’m starting the process to get our care transferred to other providers. I’m a little loath to transfer The D’s care due to all of his issues, but I may just have to. We’ll probably have to at least stick with the asthma specialist, but a mom’s gotta do what a mom’s gotta do.

And this is also why I am continuing to advocate for health care reform. In case you weren’t aware, people really, truly are dying because they don’t have insurance. It’s not as dramatic to watch as a car wreck or plane crash, but sometimes it’s many times more tragic.



An Open Letter to Parents at G’s School
April 23, 2010, 7:20 pm
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Dear Parents at The G’s School,

Hello! I know that it is a real pain to take kids places, but here’s the thing…if you don’t intend on making sure your child isn’t going to be disruptive to the other 100 people in the room, maybe you should just stay home. See, it’s a real drag to have your evening spoiled by some kid (who is, by the way, old enough to know better) raising a ruckus.

You know those decorations they school made for the event? You know that cool fake campfire? I know you know what I’m talking about because your kid went up and completely dismantled it. See, the thing about decorations is that they’re meant for everyone to enjoy. Now, I’d cut you some slack if it was your toddler who had done that…and you went back and tried to fix the damage. But, when your second grader (who is supposedly on their way to becoming Einstein or Madame Curie or something like that) does that, it’s just not cool…or cute… or funny.

Oh, and when the actual author of the children’s story is reading their story to the group, it would be really nice if you would tell your kid that the polite and respectful thing to do is sit and listen quietly. And it’s really rude when YOU start talking when the story is then read in Spanish. Just because you don’t understand the language doesn’t mean that someone else isn’t enjoying hearing a story in their native tongue.

So, parents at the G’s school, please try parenting next time you come to an event. Oh, and when something is advertised as a family event, that means you come as a family…whatever that family may look like…two dads and some kids or a mom, a dad, and some kids, a mom and kids, a dad and kids…I think you get the picture. When you send your child alone to the family event, that’s just not too cool.

Sincerely a Mom on a Parenting Rant,
oregonamy




An Open Letter to the Neighbors…
March 2, 2010, 8:20 pm
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Dear Neighbors,
Please be advised that your child needs supervision. It’s slightly disturbing to me that he wanders around the neighborhood peering into windows, including ours. Actually, it’s a little bit creepy. It’s a bit upsetting to me that he will come to our house and stay for several hours and you don’t check in to make sure he’s actually here or that he’s behaving or any number of other reasons you would call and check on your child who is under the age of 8 when you haven’t seen him for 4 hours. I wouldn’t mind having him over if you would provide him enough structure and supervision at home that he could behave himself in the homes of others.

Basically, Neighbors, you need to step up and be better parents. It appears that you are meeting your needs financially. I don’t think you are alcoholics or drug addicts, although to be fair, I don’t know you well enough to say that for sure. And I know that being a parent is emotionally and physically exhausting…but that doesn’t mean you should send your kid to another person’s home for hours at a time. I frankly don’t have a lot of interest in parenting your child.

So, there it is, Neighbor. Can we work on this? I’ve tried to talk to you about this, but I don’t think you want to hear it.

Sincerely,
A Parent Who Has Her Own Kids to Worry About