Amy’s Life in Brief


An Open Letter to Parents at G’s School
April 23, 2010, 7:20 pm
Filed under: family fun, family life, home life, mom, reading, Uncategorized | Tags:

Dear Parents at The G’s School,

Hello! I know that it is a real pain to take kids places, but here’s the thing…if you don’t intend on making sure your child isn’t going to be disruptive to the other 100 people in the room, maybe you should just stay home. See, it’s a real drag to have your evening spoiled by some kid (who is, by the way, old enough to know better) raising a ruckus.

You know those decorations they school made for the event? You know that cool fake campfire? I know you know what I’m talking about because your kid went up and completely dismantled it. See, the thing about decorations is that they’re meant for everyone to enjoy. Now, I’d cut you some slack if it was your toddler who had done that…and you went back and tried to fix the damage. But, when your second grader (who is supposedly on their way to becoming Einstein or Madame Curie or something like that) does that, it’s just not cool…or cute… or funny.

Oh, and when the actual author of the children’s story is reading their story to the group, it would be really nice if you would tell your kid that the polite and respectful thing to do is sit and listen quietly. And it’s really rude when YOU start talking when the story is then read in Spanish. Just because you don’t understand the language doesn’t mean that someone else isn’t enjoying hearing a story in their native tongue.

So, parents at the G’s school, please try parenting next time you come to an event. Oh, and when something is advertised as a family event, that means you come as a family…whatever that family may look like…two dads and some kids or a mom, a dad, and some kids, a mom and kids, a dad and kids…I think you get the picture. When you send your child alone to the family event, that’s just not too cool.

Sincerely a Mom on a Parenting Rant,
oregonamy

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An Open Letter to the Neighbors…
March 2, 2010, 8:20 pm
Filed under: boundaries, family conflict, family life, home life | Tags:

Dear Neighbors,
Please be advised that your child needs supervision. It’s slightly disturbing to me that he wanders around the neighborhood peering into windows, including ours. Actually, it’s a little bit creepy. It’s a bit upsetting to me that he will come to our house and stay for several hours and you don’t check in to make sure he’s actually here or that he’s behaving or any number of other reasons you would call and check on your child who is under the age of 8 when you haven’t seen him for 4 hours. I wouldn’t mind having him over if you would provide him enough structure and supervision at home that he could behave himself in the homes of others.

Basically, Neighbors, you need to step up and be better parents. It appears that you are meeting your needs financially. I don’t think you are alcoholics or drug addicts, although to be fair, I don’t know you well enough to say that for sure. And I know that being a parent is emotionally and physically exhausting…but that doesn’t mean you should send your kid to another person’s home for hours at a time. I frankly don’t have a lot of interest in parenting your child.

So, there it is, Neighbor. Can we work on this? I’ve tried to talk to you about this, but I don’t think you want to hear it.

Sincerely,
A Parent Who Has Her Own Kids to Worry About




Getting old just reeks!
August 16, 2009, 9:54 pm
Filed under: birthday, family conflict, family life, grandma, home life, relationships | Tags: , ,

So, I’m back from my trip to visit my grandma. She just turned 96 years old on Friday. She is a very independent woman, always has been. I never bitched too much about my trials as a mother with young children. This is a woman who had her first two children 13 months apart. She lives in a cabin with a dirt floor in a logging camp. She had to get up at 4:30 every morning. Why you ask? So she could get the diapers off the clothes line before the logging trucks came through and they got covered with dust.

Eventually, they moved to “town.” It wouldn’t be what any of us would consider being in town, but after a logging camp, maybe it would. She ran a small dairy while my grandfather worked in the woods. Oh, and she had four small children by this time.

She’s been reasonably healthy up until probably the last year or so. Took very little medication and drove. She still lives on her own…and the reason for this entry.

She is on that razor’s edge of being able to live on her own and needing more assistance. She’s probably, rapidly tipping over towards the side of needing more assistance. She has been having a fairly severe problem with anemia, so much so that she required a blood transfusion last week apparently. She has a-fib, a type of arrhythmia that can cause some problems. She’s also had some congestive heart failure. The biggest thing, in my opinion, that is a huge barrier for her to remain safely in her home is her macular degeneration.

One of my father’s cousins caught her last week almost taking three times her normal dose of Lasix. While having dinner last night, she had to ask what was in each of the dishes. She has fallen out of bed and one night apparently lit a series of matches to find her way to the bathroom. Why she has matches in her house, much less by her bed, none of will ever know. But, it is pretty frightening.

The most difficult part is that she is adamant that she will remain in her home. She is also adamant that she does not need anything close to 24 hour care or even someone to spend the night. She does have a life-line in the home and has for several years. She also doesn’t recognize how high risk she is for a fall.

I suggested a bedside commode for night so that she doesn’t have to try to find the bathroom. Of course, she was horrified. She said, “Well, my bathroom is right over there.” Over there is through her bedroom door and around a slight corner. I said, as gently as I could, “Grandma, you don’t have to walk a long way to have a bad fall.”

There could be a number of different things that could be done to make the bedroom safer. The sad fact, though, is that no matter how safe of a set up we have, the likelihood is that she WILL fall. It doesn’t really feel like a question of if she falls. And there is enough conflict between my dad and his siblings, no matter where it is that she falls, they will all point fingers and say one of two things to each other:
Statement #1-“I told you we should have moved her into an assisted living!”
Statement #2-“What good did it do to move her out of her home! Those people let her fall!”

So, it sucks watching someone get old…and I’m sure it sucks even more being the one who is getting old.